This post may piss some people off, and that’s okay. I breastfeed my daughter. I don’t say this because I think I’m better than those that don’t, I say this because it’s our journey. With that being said, for whatever strange reason being a new mom, one of the main questions I get is “are you breastfeeding?” WHY is this a thing? I’m a firm believer in FED is BEST. I do not care if a fellow mom breastfeeds, pumps or formula feeds…and neither should you.
I never realized the severity of “mom wars” until I became a mom myself. Every day I see or hear something judgmental being said to a fellow mom, and it makes me incredibly sad. We are a sisterhood, tribe, a family or at least we should be. Mommin’ is HARD; we don’t need bitches making it harder.
The main argument is breast vs. formula, and it’s crazy. Not every mom’s journey involves boobs, and it’s no one’s place to judge. Mine and Sterling’s breastfeeding journey has been a challenge, and I started finding my self EMBARRASSED because we have to use a nipple shield. WHY am I embarrassed?!? I couldn’t comprehend why I was feeling less than because of our journey is different. I felt like I would be judged for not being “natural” and having to tell people my daughter just won’t latch, and when she smells my bare nipples, she wants nothing to do with me. I felt ashamed that feeding my daughter is different than how you feed yours. I felt sad that I never see breastfeeding pictures AND shields together. I realized I felt inadequate because of these bullshit mom wars. Finally, I said it fuck, and realized that this is OUR journey together.
It’s not about how I feel, or how you feel. ALL that matters is that my daughter is fed, and for us, that means breastfeeding with a shield. The same goes for moms who choose to bottle feed for whatever reason. You don’t need to know why, and honestly, they don’t need to explain it to you. Happy, healthy, babies are all that matters!!
So from one mom to another, do your part and stop these bullshit mom wars. Keep your thoughts to yourself, on why you think one is better than the other and be a supportive sister. All of our journeys are different, but we all have one thing in common, motherhood. The best damn hood you can be a part of.
Xo from one badass mom to another.